Binary you dumby!

I was hit with a new realization today, it was not totally new, but had been knocking around my head for days now.  People are obsessed with competing with each other on the most absurd things.  But that is not new.  What is new is my way of thinking about what many of them should be: 0/1.  

What that means is either you have or you have not. And if you have then you have, whether you have done something a hundred times or only once, you have done it.  Where as if you haven't done it, nothing can really change until you have done it.

Bungee jumping, you can either have done it or you have not.  If you have done it a hundred times you may be a bit more skilled at it than someone who has done it only once, but both people have done it, and there is no question that they haven't bungee jumped.  On might also conclude that they are nuts, but that is a matter of conjecture.

My point is that if you have jumped off a bridge with a length of rope attached to you once you are very different from someone who has not and a person that does it twice a day before breakfast is less different than the person who has only done it once than the person who has never done it.

So I think you know where this is going.  A person who has had sex with only one person, is not much different from a person who has had many partners.  It matters less the number of partners one has had and more that they have had sex in the first place.  

It is something that I never really understood, for years, that the number of partners someone has had is important or relevant, as long as they practiced safe sex that is.  I have met people who are upset about their partner having had more partners than them and I have known people to lie to lower the number of partners they have had.  Like it is important.  Everybody is different and the only important thing is 0/1.