The honest scam goes like this. You talk, you get to know her and then she let's you know that she is a prostitute and her time is money and if you want to date her, you have to pay her. This is the honest one. You are emotionally invested and so you are interested and sometimes you think about it and say, why not? Sometimes you feel like everything has been cheapened and you feel used. That is the honest scam. Sometimes, when you get there you are mugged, sometimes you just have sex. I have had both.
The seductive scam is worse. I have seen through it every time before it has gotten to the scam part so I am not sure if it was a scam 100% or how the scam ends, but I can imagine one or two ways and I can imagine a happy ending too, but then after two or three runs through it, I think it is the former ends most likely.
So I get a contact from a woman who lives close to me and this does not happen often, so it is suspicious, sadly, but I get excited anyways, because someone is interested in ME! I talk to them and chat with them and they request my email address almost right away, because they have no money to talk on the site. That is fine with me. Then I find out that they live in, Poland or Russia or something like that. They don't hide it, nor do they volunteer it right away, but still it adds more suspicion. When ever I talk to someone online from the former USSR who is a woman I get suspicious. I keep an open mind, but I resolve not to be suspicious. Once I met a cute girl from Belarus who was practicing her English skills and she is a friend on FB. But I am told by her other friends that she is a little shady as a friend, but I keep an open mind, there are a lot of shady people out there in the world and they are not exclusive to the former East Bloc and the behaviours that were attributed to her, I have seen often around here with some of my "friends".
So, I email them and I hear a story that they are not interested in moving at all, and that is a double take, A) not looking for a western husband scam, and B) why the fuck are you contacting me then? So, I play along. I write long emails and 'she' writes longer emails and tells me about her life and her city and her well paying job. She tells me about her family. And a few things become common and clear: 1) she is single, 2) she is employed, 3) she has no interest in moving, 4) her father is the most important man in her life, 5) she is about ten years younger than me, 6) she has lots of pictures of herself and she is pretty, 7) she lives with her parents, 8) she is well educated, and part way through the chain of letters 9) she comes home and her father has given her a gift out of the blue of some small article of clothing, a hat, a coat or a scarf so far. I told you that I am bored a lot and some what desperate to find love, right?
Every time she is from a place I have never heard about, and it is a mid sized city. Never are they from Moscow or a big city, but always between 100k -300k people. They are relatively good at English writing, but it is repetitive, usually about how lonely they are and how the men are just looking for sex and never want to settle down. 'She' is looking for a real conversation and a real partner. I have never gotten further, writing a blog and writing emails is mentally draining sometimes and because I cracked the code and confirmed that it was likely a scam of some sort, I stopped.
I suspect that there was a tragedy in the near future of that 'woman's' life. Her father dying of a heart attack and her not wanting money from me until she loses her job or something. And I am not a bastard and I can't really know 100% that it is a scam, so I would like to avoid the mental anguish of knowing I might be abandoning a woman in real need, 0.001% chance. Maybe she wants to come visit me, maybe she needs to migrate to be with me, but I have a $2500 figure in my head that I will be out in the end. Very seductive.
The Blatant Scam. Just happened this week. Again. I contacted her. She was a cute blond with cleavage tastefully almost covered, said she thought age was just a number, which is a key phrase for older men to contact her. I did, but I stated that age was the most important number, that it referred to a number of things that lower numbers did not have and that is how we started talking.
'She' had money to spend on the dating site and so she chatted for a while. She was new to the city, and was financially stable. More alarm bells: 1) she was a model, a lingerie model at that, 2) a cam model, 3) new to the city from New York, and had photo shoots all across the country, 4) she was employed for a year here and looking for fun, love, excitement, good conversation, someone to protect her and help her. Read she is hot, virile 27 years old, into sex, and was going to be gone in a year. She wanted to be saved and needed protection, that shit most guys eat up, including me with my superman complex.
I did not suggest meeting her, she suggested it. I was trying to get a conversation out of her that was not less than five words and did not include, "Ok! Cool. <3" It was getting annoying. But she suggested that we meet. I think Me not asking was drawing out the conversation too far. As soon as I said, okay, she hit me with the scam. "I have one condition."
Here it comes, she is a hooker…. No, "I have been hurt in the past so" insert a copy and paste plea in a different font, to join three Internet sites so she can check my intentions. I called her on it. Said that is sounded fishy, but I would look at the first site. It was my second guess she wanted me to join a cam site that she was on. Five dollars for two days and a reoccurring charge afterwards. Knowing how difficult it is to get off those sites I balked and googled her name and the site name with her name and as a separate search the word skeptic and later scam, and I got an interesting response. Apparently a woman contacted a man from a dating site and he bought into it and he was not the first to be taken by this scheme. I was not. I am suspicious about giving my ID over the Internet, not as suspicious as I should be, but suspicious.
A day of back and forth she suggested a different site I could prove my worth to her. $40 non recurring charge to an auction site. Her writing English was bad and while that is not uncommon these days I was already suspicious. I started erasing the questions that she had ducked before, her duration in the city, where she was from, how long she was in the city. After I got that I tried to trap her in her words, the biggest festival ended a couple weeks ago and I asked her if she went, she said she had no time, and I agreed with her because they held it every year mid week, and they should at least have it on the weekend. It is a weekend affair, but she agreed with me. I asked her if she had been to the outskirts of the city to see the province, Manitoba. She said that she had not. I then asked her if she was even in this country? I asked her which country she was living in. She pretended that she was local and why I said that. I told her her typing had an accent. She told me that she was born in Spain and English was her second language. Nicole Crawford, is a very common Spanish name you know. So I told her that I worked with a lot of Spanish people and ran it through google translate first. That stopped her, but then she responded in Spanish back at me. It was getting fun, but it was a scam. I kept it up with her for a couple more hours, with her telling me that if I don't sign up she will stop talking and later her telling me to fuck off and stop emailing her, but she kept responding, so I did not stop.
I will see if she starts agin tonight, gives me a third site. This is what dating sites are like for me these days. Occasionally I get a real person and they go and date someone who is not me. Which I find difficult to understand because lately, I have been getting good vibes from people I talk to. Not anyone who wants to date me but good conversation laughter, I make a joke say something funny and get a genuine response. Asking for a XL ST DD with C, which is the Tim Hortons short hand for what I get and they think it is a hoot. The A&W going in and ordering a veggie burger, but only if it was raised without steroids. Being genuine and nice and getting smiles and return niceness. The difference is running me down.
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