1) State honestly what you are looking for in a woman. Really brutally honest. They type of honesty that you need to think about for several days. Spend that time, because once you put it out there people will judge you by it.
2) Have a picture. Women are naturally suspicious, and the Internet has done nothing but justify this trait. Your photo should be from the waist up and you NEED to be wearing clothing. Women don't want to see your chest, they know you have one. Wear something you are comfortable in. Or wear what you wear to work or church. If you would be uncomfortable with your mother or grandmother seeing your picture it is the wrong one. The picture needs to be recent. Those lines that have grown with you those past five or ten years that you don't notice? Those will be the first things that she will notice. Pictures never look exactly like you actually look like but it is best that have something a few years of your current age. Certainly a picture before you had to have facial reconstruction surgery will not cut it.
3) NO PENIS PICTURES. Another thing that she knows you have. Yes, yours is special, but that is because it is part of you and you are special. Let your special part be her surprise, because unless you are especially big or you have two, she has seen more of them up close than you have and to her, it is not special.
4) Fill out the standard profile very accurately. When you are chatting it will be referred back to repeatedly, so it needs to be accurate. If you don't have a car, state it if there is a spot for it, in the very least it is a conversation starter, but if you don't it can break the deal. As stated before, women are suspicious, if they catch you in one lie, they will assume that there are others. If they find two lies, well how would you feel if you showed up to a date with a forty year old obese smoker when you were expecting a thirty year old average weight non smoker? There are a few stats where lies are expected, like your weight, few women will state their accurate weight, but the key here is that you stay close, within 10% is a good rule. I could stand to loose fifty pounds— if I lost those pounds I would still be overweight but my picture would look awesome. Your profile will fit your picture and everything will fit what you look like.
5) The hardest rule is wait. Don't start contacting women. Put it in your profile that you will not be making the first move. Give them the control. You were honest, you wrote a good accurate profile, so now let a woman who is attracted to that type of person find you. You can look at other profiles, but keep your contacts to a bare minimum. If a woman is looking for sex, she is looking for something quite specific, if she is looking for love, she is looking for something else.
6) Know this, women play by different rules than men. Their rule book allows them to lie and exaggerate. They are allowed this because of all the men not following the rules above. They are explicitly allowed to lie and not have a picture, because men are pigs and most of them will throw shit at a wall looking for something that sticks, then fuck that woman. When you understand that, you see the beauty of the rules. Women will not typically up sell themselves. They will down sell themselves to make them seem less attractive. If you were a billionaire and looking for love, you would likely down play your wealth so as to avoid gold diggers. That is what women tend to do. There are honest women out there and they get discouraged quickly and stop using dating sites because of all the men with penis pics. You want to attract the cynical dating site veteran
7) When chatting be honest. If she asks you a question that will hurt your chances, hurt them by telling the truth. It tells them that you are not hiding anything, if you are willing to give away the uncomfortable stuff, it strengthens everything else. To be clear, men have a reputation for dishonesty on the Internet. If you want to date on the Internet, you need to be the real white knight, the one that is realistic, with shit sticking to your shoes.
Personal note I met this woman on the Internet last week. She contacted me. I read her profile and i impressed her with my first message. She has no picture, she lied about a lot of her profile and she stated that she is not going to date anyone from the Internet. Certainly not meet them. Right from the beginning. Last night we started sort of planning a meeting. She is a good person. She has an evil streak that I find shocking. She wants to meet drive me close to the venue so that I can walk to meet her and then we can publicly criticize each other how we don't look like or eHarmony profile. I suggested we use Ashley Madison, the extra marital affair site and she agreed. From there we are to have a very public argument and then we are to split apart and later meet up and go home. She is a French Teacher and she offered to help me get a teaching job, by teaching me French. I agreed to it. We might never be more than friends, but that is okay with me. After a few months, who knows, nothing is for certain in this world.
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