I Just want to call you

So when is a good time to call someone?  Really.  This comes from my Asperger's.  I want to talk to someone, but I don't want to inconvenience them, I want them to be comfortable.  So when do I call them?  

I had a friend once, once because she is no longer a friend.  Actually more than one friend.  One of these friends, two of these friends I will talk about.  Chronologically, there was a woman who moved away from where I was living.  I really liked her, actually I was in love with her but I could not accept that she did not love me because in a moment of weakness we had intimate contact.  I wanted to call her.  I wanted to talk to her all the time but I could not figure out a good time to talk to her, nor could I ask her.

I could not call her at work.  I could not call her in the evenings, because she might be doing something and I did not want to disturb her.  I could not call after nine, because I thought reasonable people would be asleep, and she was reasonable.  I could not call her and I wanted to call her, so I called her before she went to work, because she had to get ready and she had to go to work and I was up and had nothing to do so it was a good time.  So I called at 7am.  I was Wrong.

My other friend, who I am convinced is not my friend anymore because I did not keep in contact with, because I have not asked her otherwise, I wanted to call a lot too.  She had moved away from where I lived and moved closer to her family.  I wanted to call and talk to her weekly.  I wanted to check in on her and to see how she was doing and to tell her how I was doing and what had changed in the city.  But, I could not think of a good time to call her.  I would over think it.  I would think Sunday night, but I could not do that because I might be interrupting something.  I could not call Saturday, because she might be out.  I could not call in the morning, because well I am not stupid, occasionally I learn some things from my past failures.  I could not think of when.  So I called on her birthday.  Once a year.  Once a year to a person who meant a lot to me personally.  Once a year to my best friend in the entire world ever.  Easily one of my top three friends that I have ever had.

I can't just message people.  I say this even with the Internet and email that can be answered at any time and any place.  I get obsessive over the correct time and place to do things.  There are people who I want to write a little note to ask them questions, but I am having difficulty figuring if this is the best time to do this.

Do you understand how horrible this obsession is?