Easy as 1, 2, 3

Relationships have always been difficult for me, probably because of my autism.  High school was difficult for that reason, I could do the work, except essays, but interpersonal stuff was lost on me even though I would have given up everything else to have one.  That is Ancient history.  But it took a long time for me to get into a relationship and they all tended to gravitate to unconventional types.  It did not help that I am demisexual and demiromantic.  And those are not the ways that teenagers, twenty and thirty year olds fall in love.  These are all facts and ancient history.  I accept that I can't change anything and I have moved on.  I have always wanted a family; I have always wanted a live-in relationship, but they have never come my way, or they were offered by people that were not right for me at that time.  As I said ancient history.  

I see friends struggle through relationship issues and I want to shake them and get them to understand things correctly.  They have not thought about things, because they have come easily all their life. 

#1.  You can't change people.  That means women can not make a man better than they are, but it also means that the situation they are in when you meet them also will not change just because you are there.  MagicEyes was on a life changing path and I could not halt it by being there.

#2.  To affect change, you need to work at it and both people need to be willing to want to make that change.  MPTR wanted the best of both worlds and because she was not willing to settle, I could not make her choose me, over her dysfunctional relationship, I should have accepted it and let her go, rather than mess up both our lives.

#3. Communication is key.  That means if there is something little that bugs you get it out of the way early before it becomes big and if you decide that you can live with it, dismiss it now.  If you cease to talk everything will get worse, guaranteed.  

I bet every relationship failure can be tied to one of these rules being broken or not followed.  And have lots of sex.  Apparently that helps a lot.  Probably because to have a lot of sex, you need to communicate, accept what you can't change, and work at what you can change.  

I hope that I can continue to tell the story I am telling in Exalted and that Jaguar and Vael can work out their differences.