Dating yuch

The not dating scene is getting me down.  It is like I am getting negative experiences for about a week and I have not even been trying.  Which is tough because I am already in a place that is telling me to give up and stop trying.

I sent off a short message to someone who I thought was interesting and the response was a total shut down, then I replied thanking them for turning me down in person and to explain the problems that she saw.  And I get a nasty response that my condescension was dripping from my letter.

People *know* what they know and think that is the extent of what is.  Hi I am Queer, so I am up on everything odd sexually, but they are not.  Throw them a curve ball like demisexual and watch them tell you they *know* what it is but not understand that it actually exists.  Do I have to lie and hide myself to date?  I was wondering back at MagicEyes, when she wanted to go further on the first date than talk but resisted because I wanted to go slow and it all went nowhere.  Do I have to cough and fake being normal, do I have to sleep with women I might become attracted to keep them there in my life until I am ready to be with them?

I was thinking about revamping my profiles anyways.  I was told that I should not tell people things about myself and let them discover the magic that is me, but these experiences scream at me that I need to advertise my differences in neon lights, I need to let people know what demisexual means, that I am a literal person that I do not dissemble or use sarcasm in writing to people.

I will probably ignore my friends, I would rather not be with people who cannot see past the way my brain works to see what is in it.